Growing Pains

Engaging is hard work.  It takes time, it takes patience.  It's an art.  Sometimes, what you need to do is disengage. 
Everyone has their own issues.
It's hard to focus on others while trying to maintain and heal yourself.
It can really seem selfish.  Accept it. Everyone needs to be okay with being a healthy amount of selfish.  Everyone needs to take time for the Self.  It's nobody's job to make you happy; it is your own responsibility.  Nobody can do it for you.  The dirty work is yours.  Do it for yourself, in your own way, however it is you heal.
Nobody will stop to hear you talk about your story because they're too caught up in writing their own? Write it.  Write it out long hand, page by page, word by word.  Bleed it out like from an opened vein and put the pain to rest.