I don't really believe we are defined by our possessions, I uphold, rather, the near opposite belief, I can be very anti physical reality at times. I am, as I say, obsessively nostalgic. Go figure! I do think I compulsively hold on to certain items for a reason. I also struggle daily with getting the junk out in some sort of a routine! I have so far THIS TIME AROUND been able to go through the spices and some of the vitamins and medicines. I tossed a lot of expired and old things. No matter how small the object, this act is terrifying and empowering. I feel a tiny bit of control in the out of control nature of pitching and tossing. I have a bag full at the door of clothes. I have a bag I am currently filling up. I tossed in some things I pulled out of the glove and winter hat stash. I am going through sweaters and already have three that can definitely go. I'm trying to see these things differently. Perhaps...it will be easier to let go if they aren't so useful? (They aren't.) If they aren't so comforting? (They stress me out!) If they no longer have a purpose and I realize how I don't really use them or need them anyway it will be easier to toss the shit out! (Yes!) If you don't love it, it isn't useful, and it doesn't save you time or make you money....hey hey hey...goodbye!!
My big red fuzzy bathrobe, for instance. I got it from a friend, it's awesome and warm. To me, it's a tastefully dyed Egyptian cotton. In reality, it is bright red and 100% polyester. It's a Secret Treasure. It's an impostor; a used bathrobe. It's not even my very own, knitted out of fetal goat hair gathered on the full moon and dyed with my own menstrual blood or anything. What's the attachment? I can't help but wonder why I have kept it for so long when it isn't a real part of my life and honestly, I don't even use a bathrobe...but I fancy that I might. It is for this reason I have so many clothes, so many books, so many art supplies, so many containers, so many totes full of things, things I fancy as essential parts of my life. Things that I fancy a use for someday. Things that I fancy will fit me one day. I fancy I might, when it suites my fancy. Well, isn't that grand? The grand clutter of Missie Sue. Who is she, in all this mess?
I have this plaid, short sleeved, button down shirt. I believe it was one I took from my father's closet in high school, when I was very into wearing my dad's old shirts from the 70's and 80's. I was also into punk at the time, which seemed to be into name tags. Silly ones, real ones, whatever, it was a style. I wanted a name tag, but not a fake one. I didn't want something made for someone else; I wanted something completely original, my own name. It was at this time that I decided to combine my nickname and my middle name and make it greater than the sum of its parts. I cut a small piece of an iron on patch and by my sloppy hand embroidered it with the name "Missie Sue" in yellow cross stitch thread. Missie Sue became a character that represented my dominant side, the part of me that was desperately seeking an identity in high school. That part inside that was going to express itself or die. The same side that writes this blog, the same Missie Sue. This shirt fits me like a glove. It was my very first uniform, my first super hero cape. My name tag. I bravely named myself, creating my own brand in an attempt to avoid receiving a label. Unfortunately, I still received plenty of those, but fortunately I established a relationship with my "better" side, a relationship that continues today, the longest relationship I will ever be in.
So, do I really need a red bathrobe for comfort? Would I miss it if it wasn't here to occasionally throw on for warmth? Should a person struggling with depression really purposely make it a habit to wear a bathrobe MORE often? Isn't that just insult to injury? Should I toss the plaid shirt? It would look good over a blue or brown tank top? I could probably pull off plaid with a fedora? I could rock it out for old time's sake. Will I actually WEAR my old uniform ever again? Is it REALLY a necessary part of my wardrobe or person, required to be who I am? Probably not...but I fancy it is.
What's the attachment?
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